If you know me, even a little bit, you know that I’m not the best in social situations. In fact, I think it’s safe to say that I’m the worst. I get anxiety every time I’m put into a new social situation, especially when I’m alone, but over the years I’ve learned a few things that make these situations more bearable.
1. If all else fails, keep your mouth shut. Listening to other people is a great way to acclimate to your surroundings, and knowing more about the people around you will help so you don’t accidentally put your foot in your mouth later.
2. Smile. Even if you’re not talking, smile, otherwise you’ll spend the entire night with people asking if you’re alright, which is super awkward.
3. Find one person you’re comfortable around and stick close. For the rest of the event, they’re basically your life vest.
4. No one wants to hear your childhood sob stories. Pity is not a good first impression.
5. Find common ground and offer a thoughtful insight, after you’ve listened enough. Jumping into a conversation you’re comfortable with will make everything go by faster and and easier.
6. Don’t complain. Its bad form, especially when you’re new
7. Bring a more talkative friend. That isn’t always an option, but when it is, make the most of it. Not only will your friend be someone you can stick with the whole night, but they’ll also be able to cajole you into conversation with strangers.
8. Don’t eat or drink anything you’re not familiar/ comfortable with, especially in a party situation. Best to steer clear of something that you might regret later.
9. Introduce yourself to at least one person. You never know- they could be your soul mate or future best friend. Either way, every time you introduce yourself to a stranger, it gets easier. I promise.
10. When going into a situation your aren’t familiar or comfortable with, wear an outfit you feel great in, whether it’s just comfy or it makes your butt look awesome. At least you’ll have one thing to feel good about.
